My husband, Bob, quit smoking yesterday
My husband, Bob, quit smoking yesterday (had to – very bad artery blockages in his legs). Problem is that the smoking has kept his ulcerative colitis at bay for years and years. So the question is, how can successfully quit smoking and keep the colitis in check?
How’s that?
EVERYTHING that the smoking did for Bob, he, himself, can do even much better than that!
Smoking does have benefits and nobody smokes to get lung cancer.
People smoke because they are managing anger, de-stressing, finding a time-out and their are some advantages and many more disadvantages for them, too.
Bob can take the time out to tap into his inner wisdom, inner resources and mindbody healing abilities whenever he craves a cigarette. In a matter of moments, he will have a much more effective and healthy approach to manage anger, de-stress, find a time out and he will know how to tap into his own INNER TRUE SAGE to come up with the best answers for keeping the colitis in check and then some.
Never underestimate the power of our own answers that come from deep inside. These are the pearls of wisdom that everyone is capable of tapping into.
This, right now, today is a HUGE TURNING POINT for Bob!
He is OPEN to NEW LEARNING!
He is EVOLVING! Getting beyond smoking and into a whole new level of self-care; inside and out.
We all have RELATIONSHIPS with our bodies. Like all relationships, it’s reciprocal!
When you are FRIENDLY to your body, your body will be FRIENDLY back to you. And the opposite is true, too.
Bob is at a whole new level of a FRIENDLY RELATIONSHIP with his body. He can expect a lot in return! Including, keeping the colitis at bay and perhaps discover how much more calm he is inside simply as a result of his more FRIENDLY RELATIONSHIP with his body. There are other pleasant surprises that he will be receiving from inside himself; gifts, thank-you’s and a positive connection to himself.
As in all RELATIONSHIPS, communication is the key; verbal and non-verbal.
Ask Bob to have a conversation in the kind of caring mood that he would with a very close friend. Ask Bob to repeat these 4 lines with his eyes closed and talking directly to the area that he feels is most connected to the colitis that he is learning how to keep at bay, more and more:
Again, eyes closed and attention on the area he is building a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP with. He can put his hands there, too, if he wants.
Here’s the mindbody, verbal and non-verbal message:
“Thank you for working so well for me all these years.
I’m sorry if I’ve been ignoring you.
If there’s anything you’re trying to tell me,
I’m totally open right now.
After repeating these 4 lines five to ten times, ask Bob to keep his eyes closed for an extra minute or two and just OBSERVE and LISTEN to his own ideas, images, feelings or guidance that will always bubble up from inside of himself.
This is a friendly, caring and compassionate approach (that’s what love is) for Bob to tap into his mindbody healing abilities, his verbal and non-verbal mindbody communication; all working together and allowing Bob to find his own answers.
This is to be done whenever and in any of the situations that Bob would have had a cigarette and when he has a craving for a cigarette.
He is BRIDGING his getting beyond cigarettes with mindbody communication, (FRIENDLY RELATIONSHIP), and keeping the colitis at bay, all at the same time.
This is like freeing 3 birds from the cage, all at once, and Bob can do this daily until his INNER TRUE SAGE has this as a new and positive deeply ingrained habit…and this is when it’s automatic, 2nd nature, easy, enjoyable and feels completed.
This may take a few days or a few weeks. It really doesn’t matter. It’s Bob’s version of all this that will help him, and that includes his pace of play, healing, new learning, calm and confidence.
He is lucky to have you! You are supporting Bob, 100%! That’s huge because that is what you are helping him do for himself while at the same time helping you, yourself! We may agree that we always teach the things we need to learn. This is a BIG YES for both of you!
You have helped Bob get to the root of the problem; the disconnect of the wisdom of his body with the wisdom of his consciousness.
Bob can now be successful with his immediate and long-term goals and then some!
With LOVE!
Dr. Brian Alman
