My Holiday Memories…
Dear Dr. Alman,
I know you ask people to focus on what’s right
about their lives. I do this everyday now for
at least 1 minute, as you recommend. You also
encourage people to accept and let-go of their
emotional stess. I do this everyday for at least
5 minutes, as you recommend. I’m happier and
healthier now than I’ve ever been. BUT THE
HOLIDAYS ARE CHALLENGING! My memories
are not that great…What can I do?
N.G.
EXCELLENT PROGRESS! You are spending time
everyday on being present and being real. A+!
Everyone has pain from their past and it’s almost
always associated with a specific time of the
year and/or a specific age in their life. For you,
it’s the holidays.
Please consider these ?’s:
1. What age did the holidays become difficult?
2. Why then, and not 2 years before or 2 years
after?
3. Why do you think you feel mostly good the
rest of the year but not at the holidays?
4. Why do you think the holidays continue to
be difficult for you?
5. Why do you think people get stressed during
the holidays?
After answering these questions, you are doing
2 important things that will help you receive
gifts from inside yourself; increasing your
awareness & letting-go! If possible, write down
your answers. If you want to get even more out
of this (awareness and letting-go), write your
answers with your eyes closed and with your
non-dominant hand!! Yes, healing can be fun,
make you giggle and help a lot at the same time.
Some of the things that my good friend
and colleague, Vincent Felitti, M.D.,
found out in his world-famous A.C.E. Study
(www.acestudy.org) are that you have to
get to the roots of the problem. Most people
who are struggling, (physically and
emotionally) have very good reasons! Yes,
most problems are the result of people doing
the best with what they know (at the time)
and under adverse conditions (and with
very real problems).
Simply stated, your holiday challenges are
worth your time and energy to work through.
Everyone has to do their own individual (inner)
work to move forward.
The good news is that you are 100% capable!
The other good news is that it’s easier to deal
with problems than it is to not deal with
problems!
For the “how-to’s” go to www.TruSage.com and
work with the 21 days at the beach on DVD.
For one-on-one training, write me as you
may want to spend 2 days at the beach.
All of your future holidays will be lighter,
freer and more positive; from now on.
Of course, it’s your pleasure to continue with
everything that you’ve been doing because
all of that has brought you to where you are
now; moving forward!
These holidays may be even easier, just
knowing you are about to move forward
faster than ever before. It’s amazing how the
mind, emotions and body KNOW what you
are up to at all times!
The psychology of the holidays is that we all
want something, and somebody prevented you
from getting it. Somebody blocked you, became
an obstacle and at that age you did not know
“how-to” deal with all of that. (NOW YOU CAN
LEARN!)
At that age, all of your energy was going into
getting something (like peace in your own
home or respect or trust or love) and somebody
blocked your energy. You could not get what
you wanted (or needed).
The frustrated energy becomes anger.
The anger is against the person who destroyed
the possibility of celebrating the holidays.
You can’t prevent anger because anger is a
normal reaction to unfair conditions.
Trying to get rid of anger is like putting out the
smoke when there is a fire.
At young ages, because of all the reasons you
already know, we repress our anger. We hold
it in. We would get in trouble for letting-go.
Our bodies are the receptacle of our repressed
feelings. So, at the holidays, we either feel
anger, repressed, stuck, confused, frustrated,
numb or all of the above.
NOW IS THE TIME to learn HOW-TO take A+
care of you!
Make this a holiday present! It will last forever!
Once you learn how-to deal with the holiday,
your feelings and this includes anger, you will
be pleasantly surprised (as one of my teacher’s
taught me — Milton Erickson, M.D.); because
when you learn how to let-go of anger and it
disappears….it leaves behind a tremendous
energy of friendliness, caring and compassion.
That’s what love is — fcc — friendliness, caring
and compassion. YOU WILL LOVE the
HOLIDAYS and FEEL FREE to CELEBRATE
YOUR LIFE EVERYDAY!
Enjoy!
Thanks for sharing!
Dr. Brian Alman
