Dealing with stress & fear…
Dear Dr. Alman and TruSage,
I’m dealing with stress and fear everyday! I’m in
a crisis! I’m about to lose my job but who isn’t?
I’m about to lose my house, like half the people
where I live. My body is a mess. I go to the MD
and I hear the same thing; IT’S STRESS! I take
medications which I don’t like — to help me sleep,
anti-depressants, anti-anxiety and for high blood
pressure. My blood pressure goes up and down
depending on my stress. I’ve always been
anxious. It’s just worse now than ever before.
Please help me in dealing with stress and fear…
Judge Judy (not the TV one)
Dear Judge Judy,
Thank you for reaching out so that I can show
you how to reach in! You are closer than you
think to feeling a lot better. It is intelligent to
be receiving the best medical care you can get
and I want to encourage you to continue following
your doctor’s prescriptions and to add-in your
own advice. Everyone has an inner doctor that
we call our intution or center or spirituality or
inner wisdom. It’s never either-or; when it comes
to doctors. It’s always both! 75% of people in
the U.S. seek out Complementary Medicine.
We all need to utilize all of our resources to heal
and continue to get healthier everyday.
You are about to open yourself up to a whole
new area of healing, health and happiness!
Stop right now, everything you are doing, and
focus on WHAT’S RIGHT ABOUT YOUR LIFE?
Write your answers down on a piece of paper
and/or focus 100% on WHAT’S RIGHT ABOUT
YOUR LIFE!
You have 3 unique and valuable perspectives
of your life, stress, your body, health, the
economy and life!
#1 What’s right about how you FEEL about your
situation? Go ahead and focus on how you FEEL
about everything that you wrote to me. Write
it all done, talk out loud and most importantly,
ACCEPT & EXPRESS all of your FEELINGS.
Believe it or not, this will move you towards
focusing on what’s right about how you FEEL.
Simply, accepting and expressing is a way to
FREE yourself, FREE your feelings and at the
same time it stops you from trying to control,
fix, solve or change your feelings. This alone
is a big step in the right direction! Watch what
happens. This will only take minutes, instead
of decades of trying to not feel what you feel or
trying to control what you feel or ignoring,
denying or hating what you feel. ACCEPT &
EXPRESS will move you forward to being able
to focus on what’s right about your feelings.
HINT: They are real! You have a right to feel
what you feel.
2nd HINT: Trying to control your feelings or
repressing your feelings is what causes stress!!!
Your body is the recptacle for your repressed
feelings. Your body then signals you that you
are stressed. It’s simpler to become AWARE
(which you already are) and then add ACCEPT
& EXPRES your feelings than it is to repress,
control and stuff the stress into your body.
#2 JUDGE your self, your situation, your
stress and everything that is wrong in your life.
This may be very easy for you since you are a
judge! Everyone gets stuck here! Judging
and criticizing yourself, your feelings, your
stress, the economy, being afraid of being afraid
and feeling bad….these should be easy to judge.
Again, write down everything and talk out loud,
if you can. Most importantly, ACCEPT & EXPRESS
your judgments, criticisms, thoughts of never
being satisfied, thoughts that it’s never enough,
over-thinking, over-analyzing…and focus on
what’s right about focusing on what’s wrong with
you, your life and the world.
Of course, this is counter-intuitive! Yes, this is
not rational but we all have decades of trying
everything that is rational and we all know what
we “should do” but still we can’t make ourselves
do it. It’s not a matter of brains or intelligence.
We get stuck emotionally! We hold our feelings
in. We stuff and repress our feelings and this is
what becomes our stress. When you ACCEPT
& EXPRESS your judgments, you are FREEING
yourself (inside and out) to utilize your energy
to be creative instead of just coping or surviving.
#3 Now, really focus on WHAT’S RIGHT ABOUT
YOUR LIFE! This will flow now….because you
have been real about what you think, feel and
you’ve been expressing yourself as well as
accepting yourself. You can now connect with
your center, inner wisdom, intuition, spirituality,
health and happiness.
All day long, keep asking yourself, “What’s right
about my life?” Listen to your answers. You will
love what appears, bubbles up and happens
spontaneously. You are learning HOW TO get
out of your own way.
What does this have to do with dealing with
stress and fear? EVERYTHING! You are learning
HOW TO deal with stress and fear by facing them,
accepting, expressing, freeing, and evolving.
Let me recommend that I help you by DELIVERING
a new 10 minute meditation to your email or
phone — find out more at www.TruSage.com –
and it’s called the 90 Day Program. You will
receive brand new techniques every single day.
They never repeat. They are unique, positive,
relaxing, fun, inspiring, helpful immediately and
long-term. They are a collection of all the best
techniques I learned from Dr. Milton Erickson
and the tens of thousands of teachers and students
I’ve learned from — over the past 30 years. It
is my pleasure and honor to share these with you.
I guarantee in 90 days you will feel much better
than you have in the past, inside and out. You
may already feel better from the one exercise we
did in response to your question.
Thank you for making one more thing right about
my day — you reaching out and learning HOW TO
reach in — I love it!
Best wishes,
Dr. Brian Alman
