S-T-R-E-S-S…..who you?
S-T-R-E-S-S…..who you? Yes, you! Couldn’t be? Then, who?
All relationships can be stressful. Partners, parents, kids, co-workers, friends and even the one with yourself.
Let’s see what we can learn from the parent’s perspective about how to deal with S-T-R-E-S-S:
DEALING WITH STRESS, family problems, money issues, health concerns….
Everyone has adverse experiences in their families. Most of these are not avoidable. How parents deal with adversity is one of the most important life lessons that parents pass on to their kids.
Role model and tell your kids what you are doing to let go of stress. That can be working out, being in the garden, talking with friends, going for a walk, singing, playing a musical instrument, dancing, painting, journaling, etc.
Everyone has their own ways of dealing stress….and learning new ways to “add-on” to your old ways is a great idea….especially, since these are positively going to help!
How we deal with stress can become a teachable moment, a skill-set development opportunity and it’s real.
Of course, there are age appropriate issues — how much to share with an aged child.
I do not believe in sharing the details of the stress with kids…..just share the what are you doing about it. That’s the key. How you deal with stress….not what is stressing you out.
Kids want their parents to be happy….so they will try to figure out what that may be….it’s unfortunate because the kids are helpless and don’t have enough life experience to figure out the answers that will work.
Let your kids know that when you are upset and stressed, what you need; a hug, some quiet time, need to walk, etc.
SHARE your skills…..share your ways of dealing with stress and letting go….to role-model positive approaches.
Otherwise, you will pass on what your parents did and the kids pick up those patterns (unconsciously)….
Being loving includes being honest about HOW you deal with stress……this brings you closer…..
Being real about how you deal is being loving, too.
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NEXT BLOG On S-T-R-E-S-S will focus on Listening vs. Checking Out…….
Most parents have too much to do and not enough time.
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To find out more about the “how-to’s” and the “add-on’s” — visit www.keepitoffforlife.com
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Make the most of today by dealing with S-T-R-E-S-S with some of your new skills from this BLOG.
I’m spelling the word out because it may help to just slow you down enough to realize you can deal with things even better today than yesterday.
With Love,
Dr. Brian Alman
